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CHARITY ESSENTIALS

Life without charity is useless and unfulfilled.  Charity is essential for experiencing a life filled with increase, overflow, abundance, good measured, pressed down, shaken together and running over.  Charity is the key to long-term financial success and must begin first in your home.

9 Charity Essentials to Practice First at Home:

1. Patience:  Passively apply patience with yourself in the financial planning process with each family member.  Use patience to create and operate your family budget.  Do not be in a hurry when making financial decisions.  Be calm, take your time and follow through with a realistic and peaceful action plan.  Believe for the best and hope for more stable financial resources and provisions that can position your family to financially support your community joyfully.

2. Kindness: Use kindness to move your family to another financial level of success.  Kindness is a financial weapon in action.  Never act rashly or insolently  toward money.  Using presumptuous and disrespectful behaviors to clarify the family’s financial situation to your children is inconsistent with charity.  Take time to discuss in an orderly manner your children’s budget, spending and investment goals at your weekly family meetings.  This level of kindness is mandatory for preparing your children to mirror back to the community excellent money management skills.

3. Generosity: Liberally investing and habitually maximizing your children’s financial portfolio before they graduate high school is an excellent form of demonstrating charity at home. Preparing your children to be financially responsible and accountability is an important and valuable aspect of family empowerment.  The level of generosity displayed in the home will match the level of generosity your family is capable of giving to others outside the home.

4. Humility: Conditioning your family to become skilled in humility is exhibiting charity without the parade.  Though often neglected, humility is foundational in positioning your family to lead successfully in the area of finance.  Pride destroys families unwilling to identify the many opportunities for activating humility. Unlimited wealth is attracted to humility.

5. Courtesy: Being polite in communicating the family’s 90 day spending plan without disagreement in spite of your family’s current economic situation is expressing charity in a manner your children can easily understand.

6. Unselfishness:  The true essence of charity is unselfishness.  Having the courage to control the habit of overspending so as to secure your family’s financial future is experiencing charity without limits.  The secret to changing your family’s financial situation for the better is hidden in unselfishness.   The fear of not having enough is a trap many families never recover from.  There are more than enough financial resources available on this planet for every family.  Take a stand today and demonstrate your bravery by facing every selfish thought and idea with the capability of sabotaging your children’s inheritance.

7. Good Temper: A well-balanced and mental disposition family has the potential to shift financial consciousness in their community, the school their children attend, and even the place they worship.  Families with good temperament are quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger.  The world cannot advance successfully without these families sharing this level of charity within the community.  The only way to stop hostility, hate and the poison generated by toxic emotions is to begin demonstrating good temperament in your home.  Once mastered visually in the home, children will begin to reflect back to the community a level of peace beyond human understanding.

8. Ethics:  Being in accordance with financial principles that governs your family’s conduct is a form of charity that must be cultivated.  Children are watching their parents for the correct response to spending, saving and investing.  What financial morals do you practice at home before shopping?  Can your children trust you to manage their financial destiny?  When will you begin that education fund?

9. Sincerity:  The truth in word and action is the meaning of sincerity to children.  Practice connecting a physical action to the financial promises you make to your children.  Words without the correct action sends a negative message to children.  Children who are disappointed usually reflect the same behavior to their classmates and eventually grow up to become adults that do the same to their spouse.  What can you do today to shift this dynamics in your home?  When will you begin teaching your family the essentials for adding value to their community?  What ideas do you have for preparing your children with an accountability plan for the cash you give them weekly for lunch, toys, entertainment or food?

UNDERSTANDING YOUR CHILD’S ANGER

A child’s anger is a quick and reflective response to a parent’s hypocrisy.  Pretending to have family values and purpose involves deception and is considered a lie.

Children dislike and become angry easily by a parent’s pretense of a virtuous and moral character.  Parents are at the mercy of understanding their children’s anger due to the deceptive and tragic methods used to communicate the family’s purpose.

Making excuses and being inconsistent with family goals is usually at the center stage why many children become furious with their parents.  Children need their parents to demonstrate behaviors reflecting truth, honesty and integrity in the home.  Half-truth is a form of trickery many children detest and do not respond to kindly.

Making plans with your child and changing them without an explanation provokes anger.  Anger in many children is often stimulated by a neglecting parent.  Neglecting to invest time in preparing children emotionally and physically to respond effectively to life’s daily challenges, encourages frustration.

Misleading children about their purpose in life is the highest form of deception many parents use underhanded that incites a child’s anger.  Suppressed truth about a child’s potential is no excuse for abuse and abandonment.

Children need parents to be more accountable with their future.  What are your written goals and purpose for your child’s first 18 years?  Why do you tolerate such low performance and deception in preparing your child with a financial portfolio before they begin high school?

Who is responsible for your family’s success? When will you develop the necessary skills and tools to move your child forward successfully?  Where can your child go for mentorship and support until you get help you need?  How can you strategically improve your relationship with your child within the next 12 months?

These questions can only be answered by a parent who honestly choose to understand the dangers associated with the child’s inability to process their own emotions correctly.  Implementing the answers to these questions has the potential to heal your family.  You are the answer to your child’s anger.  Share the family’s purpose with your child before it’s too late!

 

 

 

 

 

HOW SHOULD I DEAL WITH MY CHILD WHO IS A BULLY?

It is important to know that one in ten children are victimized by bullies.  Bullying is a serious problem that should not be taken lightly.  Start by determining the reasons why your child is bullying others.  Are your child’s needs being met at home?  Do you invest 30 minutes or more daily engaging in developing healthy communication skills with your child?  Do you have a family purpose statement posted in your home?

The most common type of bullying is physical; punching, pushing, kicking etc.  Other types of bullying include using the silent treatment to manipulate others to give in to their demands.

        However, a child may be teasing other children, calling them names or otherwise verbally assaulting them.  Once you have determined the type of bullying, make it completely clear to your child that this behavior is unacceptable. Always separate the behavior from the child.  Then, take a good look at your non-verbal communication with your child.  

      Often, children imitate the behaviors of their parents.  Do you bully your spouse, child or others?  Do you demand things go your way? Are you a know it all parent?

Talking with your child about his/her behavior may lead them to giving you an explanation.  However, in many cases, it is a good idea to involve a professional counselor, who is especially trained in working with children who are bullies.

7 KEYS FOR WINNING YOUR CHILDREN’S HEART

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#1. FOCUS ON YOUR FAMILY’S PURPOSE: Your family’s purpose is foundational in winning your children’s heart.  Every child has a deep desire for connecting with their family’s purpose.  Without a family purpose many children become victims to other people’s purpose in life.  To learn how to create a family purpose statement visit http://www.BrooksandBrooksFoundation.org.

#2. TAKE ACTION DAILY:  It is very important parents take daily action toward the fulfillment of their family’s purpose.  Small steps each day are guaranteed for helping your children to shape their personalities and skillfully crafting their life experiences.

#3. ENCOURAGE THEM:  Children love the encouragement of their parents.  Encouragement is a powerful tool for building your children’s self-esteem and confidence.

#4. EXPRESS GRATITUDE: Celebrate the good in your children.  There are no perfect children.  Express gratitude when they have worked hard to keep their room clean.  Express gratitude when your children does not complain about dinner.  The goal is to express gratitude for the behavior you would like your child to practice more often.  Resist the temptation in paying more attention to your children’s negative behaviors.

#5. SHARE FAMILY GOALS:  A great time to share family goals is during your weekly family meetings.  Share the big picture with your children and allow them to add value to the family.  Children who are allowed to add value to their family usually add value to their community.

#6. FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION:  Children without a clear family purpose often develop a negative perception of who they are.  Do not give this option to your child.  Invest the necessary time to educate your children about the family’s purpose.

#7. BELIEVE IN YOUR PARENTING ABILITIES:  Children can only grow as far as their parent’s personal development.  Read the necessary books, attend the workshops, seek council from those who know more than you and never give up on personal development.  You are the best person for this parenting job.  I believe in your parenting abilities.  Now it’s your turn.

VITAMINS FOR A PARENT’S MIND!

VITAMINS FOR A PARENT'S MIND

Parents have a tendency to react negatively to their children’s behavior, particularly when they run out of effective parenting tools to use.   The fastest and quickest way to improve your children’s behavior is to execute the 3 C’s of parenting, otherwise known as vitamins for a parent’s mind.   A parent’s ability to lead their children respectfully and authoritatively will always be at the mercy of their ability to manage themselves skillfully with proper vitamins for their mind.

The first C for parents is comprehension.  Comprehension is grasping the nature and importance of your children’s behavior at all time.  This vitamin is about parents intellectually responding to their children’s behavior from a position of strength and authority.  Parents must make it a rule to never react impulsively to their children’s behavior.

The second C for parenting is conscience.  Conscience is the awareness of a parent’s ethical conduct when responding to their children’s behavior.  Communicating with a clear conscience is an essential vitamin for correcting negative behavior demonstrated by your children.  There are not enough gifts or sacrifices a parent can give their children that will eliminate a guilty conscience.  Parents must respond to their children’s negative behaviors always with a clear conscience not a guilty conscience. Reacting to your children’s behavior without forgiving them of their past negative behaviors is the greatest and most detrimental blockage to your children’s self-development.

The third C for parenting is conceptualization.  Conceptualization are thoughts and ideas parents have about their children. Negative behaviors begin with a thought.   Positive behaviors are also conceived by a thought.  The road from conceptualization to understanding your children’s behavior can be tedious.  Keep in mind; children’s behaviors are first conceived from the ideas and thoughts they have about themselves.  Coaching children towards improving their personal identity will drastically change their behavior towards success and excellence.

Join Yvonne by registering  for the FREE Teleseminar “The Battlefield of a Parent’s Mind” at http://www.BrooksandBrooksFoundation.org or email brooksfoundation@gmail.com

3 WAYS TO ADDRESS YOUR CHILD’S NEEDS

Three major areas of need parents should address with their children include:

1. Unity with Self:

Show your children the benefits of being content.  Clarify their core values and attitudes.  Re-enforce the power of not comparing themselves to others.

2. Unity with Family:

Assisting your child with a clear family vision and mission provides meaning to their lives.  There is power in family unity. The process of leadership begins by understanding the desired end result with each child.

3. Unity with Others:

Healthy relationship with others increases productivity at home and school.  Children need healthy relationships for growth and development.  Parent’s can choose consciously to be a leader that demonstrates unity with themselves and others.  Being patient with your children until the need of each child is met is key in connecting at a deeper level with your family.

 

WHAT IS YOUR CHILD’S BLIND SPOT?

Blind Spot #1: Overestimate Themselves

This often happens when your child set their goals too high.

Solution: Break family goals down into several steps and ask your child to assist you with the process of breaking a goal into several steps.

Blind Spot #2: Believe they do not need help

Allow your child room to make mistakes, and encourage them to get back up and try again.

Blind Spot #3: Underestimate Themselves

Children who set their goals too low are easily bored and usually struggle with this blind spot.

Solution:

Review your family purpose, vision, mission and values statement with your child.  Begin a step by step plan for assisting your child with creating their personal purpose statement to be posted in their room.

Blind Spot #4: Negative Thoughts

Many children are unaware that they are not their thoughts.  Each action is connected to thoughts they gave permission to.  Encourage your child to capture each thought to align with their purpose statement, and refuse every thought that does not support it.

Blind Spot #5: Pride

Right before your child suffers a horrible setback, pride will show up.  Pride is associated with limited vision.  The inability to activate a personal vision statement can be very dangerous to your child’s well-being.

Solution:

Create a 90-day plan with your child to activate their personal vision statement.

Assignment:

Visit the Brooks & Brooks Foundation Youtube Channel and watch the video “How to Create Your Family Vision Statement.”