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A father’s influence is contagious and sets the atmosphere in the home. Influencing the family to a life of excellence or a life of mediocrity rest on the shoulders of fathers.

The purpose of a father’s influence is to bring flavor and illumination to his family. Living an obvious and exceptional life of excellence is an essential characteristic of fathers displaying their power of influence in the home.

Understanding his sphere of influence is critical for family survival.  The influence of a father is like a salt seasoning that adds richness to his family.  Salt is a powerful seasoning that flavors most foods.

This influence rich in vision, compassion, kindness and forgiveness brings out the flavor in each family member to rise to a level of success effortlessly.

Light is another great example of a father’s influence that illuminates his family.  Without the light turned on many families will stumble and walk in darkness (ignorance) for decades.  The light is the greatest influence in this atmosphere and without it visibility is not possible. A father’s words and actions must be rich in leadership for illuminating his family.

Fathers are salt and light to their families.  Therefore, they possess the highest form of influence in the home.  A father refusing to season his family, is a a father who has lost his flavor. Hence, he is no longer of value to his family and will not hesitate to abuse, destroy, sabotage or leave his family.  A little leaven, leaveneth the whole lump!

Every choice a father make will have repercussion in the life of each family member.  A father’s influence is connected to his relationships. There is no such thing as “It won’t affect the children”, this statement is a lie.  Every decision a father make has the potential to empower or destroy his family.  Please review the divorce courts rulings for more statistics.

We all can make a difference.  Celebrate “The Year of the Family” with us by sharing this article and influence a family toward excellence.




#1. FOCUS ON YOUR FAMILY’S PURPOSE: Your family’s purpose is foundational in winning your children’s heart.  Every child has a deep desire for connecting with their family’s purpose.  Without a family purpose many children become victims to other people’s purpose in life.  To learn how to create a family purpose statement visit http://www.BrooksandBrooksFoundation.org.

#2. TAKE ACTION DAILY:  It is very important parents take daily action toward the fulfillment of their family’s purpose.  Small steps each day are guaranteed for helping your children to shape their personalities and skillfully crafting their life experiences.

#3. ENCOURAGE THEM:  Children love the encouragement of their parents.  Encouragement is a powerful tool for building your children’s self-esteem and confidence.

#4. EXPRESS GRATITUDE: Celebrate the good in your children.  There are no perfect children.  Express gratitude when they have worked hard to keep their room clean.  Express gratitude when your children does not complain about dinner.  The goal is to express gratitude for the behavior you would like your child to practice more often.  Resist the temptation in paying more attention to your children’s negative behaviors.

#5. SHARE FAMILY GOALS:  A great time to share family goals is during your weekly family meetings.  Share the big picture with your children and allow them to add value to the family.  Children who are allowed to add value to their family usually add value to their community.

#6. FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION:  Children without a clear family purpose often develop a negative perception of who they are.  Do not give this option to your child.  Invest the necessary time to educate your children about the family’s purpose.

#7. BELIEVE IN YOUR PARENTING ABILITIES:  Children can only grow as far as their parent’s personal development.  Read the necessary books, attend the workshops, seek council from those who know more than you and never give up on personal development.  You are the best person for this parenting job.  I believe in your parenting abilities.  Now it’s your turn.


New Book Helps Parents Build Their Children’s Self-Esteem.

Self-esteem is your sense of personal worth. It encompasses both self-confidence and self-acceptance. In part, healthy self-esteem comes from your awareness of the value you add to your family and the community. In Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem, author Yvonne Brooks provides a step-by-step guide for improving children’s self-esteem.

Practical and hands-on, with clear and concise instructions, Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem shows parents how to identify healthy and low self-esteem behaviors in their children. Parents will also learn how to overcome and correct unproductive habits that limit their child’s performance.

From developing a series of ideas for empowering children toward self-responsibility and awareness, parents will get the information needed to activate their child’s potential for maximum success. Parents will learn how self-esteem manifests in children, how children with healthy and low self-esteem communicate, and how healthy and low self-esteem characteristics affect parenting skills.

Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem provides guidance to help parents manifest and produce healthy, confident, courageous children.

Format:Perfect Bound Softcover(B/W)
COST: $16.95
Availability: Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Ingram, Baker & Taylor, Iuniverse, http://www.BrooksandBrooksFoundation.org


Blind Spot #1: Overestimate Themselves

This often happens when your child set their goals too high.

Solution: Break family goals down into several steps and ask your child to assist you with the process of breaking a goal into several steps.

Blind Spot #2: Believe they do not need help

Allow your child room to make mistakes, and encourage them to get back up and try again.

Blind Spot #3: Underestimate Themselves

Children who set their goals too low are easily bored and usually struggle with this blind spot.


Review your family purpose, vision, mission and values statement with your child.  Begin a step by step plan for assisting your child with creating their personal purpose statement to be posted in their room.

Blind Spot #4: Negative Thoughts

Many children are unaware that they are not their thoughts.  Each action is connected to thoughts they gave permission to.  Encourage your child to capture each thought to align with their purpose statement, and refuse every thought that does not support it.

Blind Spot #5: Pride

Right before your child suffers a horrible setback, pride will show up.  Pride is associated with limited vision.  The inability to activate a personal vision statement can be very dangerous to your child’s well-being.


Create a 90-day plan with your child to activate their personal vision statement.


Visit the Brooks & Brooks Foundation Youtube Channel and watch the video “How to Create Your Family Vision Statement.”


Starting your day with a written plan for investing your greatest commodity is a wise decision.  Parenting effectively within the next twenty-four hours is a skill that must be mastered.  With a plan in hand for investing your next twenty-four hours strategically, the return on invested time will expand your capacity to receive the joy and peace associated with parenting.  Below is a sample breakdown for investing your next twenty-four hours wisely.

Sample Breakdown include:

-Sleep (7-8 hours)

-Productive-Generating Income (7-8 hrs)

-Family ( 3 hrs)

-Exercise (1 hr)

-Relaxation/Prayer (2 hrs)

-Social ( 2 hrs)


The most common complaint of parents is, “It’s not that I don’t know what to do, it’s that I don’t do what I know!”   Doing too much for your children is an excellent example of knowing what to do, but not doing it.  This is called over parenting.

Children can only  relate at the level of their parents perception or thoughts of who they are.   If the perception of your child is limited, you will find yourself doing everything for them because you believe they are incompetent.

If the perception of your child is uplifting, you will eagerly provide tools and resources for your child to increase his/her capacity for self-growth.

Take time to reflect on the state of your mind before reacting or responding to your child.  Look at your children’s potential, not their inadequacies or mistakes.