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Life without charity is useless and unfulfilled.  Charity is essential for experiencing a life filled with increase, overflow, abundance, good measured, pressed down, shaken together and running over.  Charity is the key to long-term financial success and must begin first in your home.

9 Charity Essentials to Practice First at Home:

1. Patience:  Passively apply patience with yourself in the financial planning process with each family member.  Use patience to create and operate your family budget.  Do not be in a hurry when making financial decisions.  Be calm, take your time and follow through with a realistic and peaceful action plan.  Believe for the best and hope for more stable financial resources and provisions that can position your family to financially support your community joyfully.

2. Kindness: Use kindness to move your family to another financial level of success.  Kindness is a financial weapon in action.  Never act rashly or insolently  toward money.  Using presumptuous and disrespectful behaviors to clarify the family’s financial situation to your children is inconsistent with charity.  Take time to discuss in an orderly manner your children’s budget, spending and investment goals at your weekly family meetings.  This level of kindness is mandatory for preparing your children to mirror back to the community excellent money management skills.

3. Generosity: Liberally investing and habitually maximizing your children’s financial portfolio before they graduate high school is an excellent form of demonstrating charity at home. Preparing your children to be financially responsible and accountability is an important and valuable aspect of family empowerment.  The level of generosity displayed in the home will match the level of generosity your family is capable of giving to others outside the home.

4. Humility: Conditioning your family to become skilled in humility is exhibiting charity without the parade.  Though often neglected, humility is foundational in positioning your family to lead successfully in the area of finance.  Pride destroys families unwilling to identify the many opportunities for activating humility. Unlimited wealth is attracted to humility.

5. Courtesy: Being polite in communicating the family’s 90 day spending plan without disagreement in spite of your family’s current economic situation is expressing charity in a manner your children can easily understand.

6. Unselfishness:  The true essence of charity is unselfishness.  Having the courage to control the habit of overspending so as to secure your family’s financial future is experiencing charity without limits.  The secret to changing your family’s financial situation for the better is hidden in unselfishness.   The fear of not having enough is a trap many families never recover from.  There are more than enough financial resources available on this planet for every family.  Take a stand today and demonstrate your bravery by facing every selfish thought and idea with the capability of sabotaging your children’s inheritance.

7. Good Temper: A well-balanced and mental disposition family has the potential to shift financial consciousness in their community, the school their children attend, and even the place they worship.  Families with good temperament are quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger.  The world cannot advance successfully without these families sharing this level of charity within the community.  The only way to stop hostility, hate and the poison generated by toxic emotions is to begin demonstrating good temperament in your home.  Once mastered visually in the home, children will begin to reflect back to the community a level of peace beyond human understanding.

8. Ethics:  Being in accordance with financial principles that governs your family’s conduct is a form of charity that must be cultivated.  Children are watching their parents for the correct response to spending, saving and investing.  What financial morals do you practice at home before shopping?  Can your children trust you to manage their financial destiny?  When will you begin that education fund?

9. Sincerity:  The truth in word and action is the meaning of sincerity to children.  Practice connecting a physical action to the financial promises you make to your children.  Words without the correct action sends a negative message to children.  Children who are disappointed usually reflect the same behavior to their classmates and eventually grow up to become adults that do the same to their spouse.  What can you do today to shift this dynamics in your home?  When will you begin teaching your family the essentials for adding value to their community?  What ideas do you have for preparing your children with an accountability plan for the cash you give them weekly for lunch, toys, entertainment or food?



It is important to know that one in ten children are victimized by bullies.  Bullying is a serious problem that should not be taken lightly.  Start by determining the reasons why your child is bullying others.  Are your child’s needs being met at home?  Do you invest 30 minutes or more daily engaging in developing healthy communication skills with your child?  Do you have a family purpose statement posted in your home?

The most common type of bullying is physical; punching, pushing, kicking etc.  Other types of bullying include using the silent treatment to manipulate others to give in to their demands.

        However, a child may be teasing other children, calling them names or otherwise verbally assaulting them.  Once you have determined the type of bullying, make it completely clear to your child that this behavior is unacceptable. Always separate the behavior from the child.  Then, take a good look at your non-verbal communication with your child.  

      Often, children imitate the behaviors of their parents.  Do you bully your spouse, child or others?  Do you demand things go your way? Are you a know it all parent?

Talking with your child about his/her behavior may lead them to giving you an explanation.  However, in many cases, it is a good idea to involve a professional counselor, who is especially trained in working with children who are bullies.



Parents have a tendency to react negatively to their children’s behavior, particularly when they run out of effective parenting tools to use.   The fastest and quickest way to improve your children’s behavior is to execute the 3 C’s of parenting, otherwise known as vitamins for a parent’s mind.   A parent’s ability to lead their children respectfully and authoritatively will always be at the mercy of their ability to manage themselves skillfully with proper vitamins for their mind.

The first C for parents is comprehension.  Comprehension is grasping the nature and importance of your children’s behavior at all time.  This vitamin is about parents intellectually responding to their children’s behavior from a position of strength and authority.  Parents must make it a rule to never react impulsively to their children’s behavior.

The second C for parenting is conscience.  Conscience is the awareness of a parent’s ethical conduct when responding to their children’s behavior.  Communicating with a clear conscience is an essential vitamin for correcting negative behavior demonstrated by your children.  There are not enough gifts or sacrifices a parent can give their children that will eliminate a guilty conscience.  Parents must respond to their children’s negative behaviors always with a clear conscience not a guilty conscience. Reacting to your children’s behavior without forgiving them of their past negative behaviors is the greatest and most detrimental blockage to your children’s self-development.

The third C for parenting is conceptualization.  Conceptualization are thoughts and ideas parents have about their children. Negative behaviors begin with a thought.   Positive behaviors are also conceived by a thought.  The road from conceptualization to understanding your children’s behavior can be tedious.  Keep in mind; children’s behaviors are first conceived from the ideas and thoughts they have about themselves.  Coaching children towards improving their personal identity will drastically change their behavior towards success and excellence.

Join Yvonne by registering  for the FREE Teleseminar “The Battlefield of a Parent’s Mind” at http://www.BrooksandBrooksFoundation.org or email brooksfoundation@gmail.com


New Book Helps Parents Build Their Children’s Self-Esteem.

Self-esteem is your sense of personal worth. It encompasses both self-confidence and self-acceptance. In part, healthy self-esteem comes from your awareness of the value you add to your family and the community. In Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem, author Yvonne Brooks provides a step-by-step guide for improving children’s self-esteem.

Practical and hands-on, with clear and concise instructions, Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem shows parents how to identify healthy and low self-esteem behaviors in their children. Parents will also learn how to overcome and correct unproductive habits that limit their child’s performance.

From developing a series of ideas for empowering children toward self-responsibility and awareness, parents will get the information needed to activate their child’s potential for maximum success. Parents will learn how self-esteem manifests in children, how children with healthy and low self-esteem communicate, and how healthy and low self-esteem characteristics affect parenting skills.

Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem provides guidance to help parents manifest and produce healthy, confident, courageous children.

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Three major areas of need parents should address with their children include:

1. Unity with Self:

Show your children the benefits of being content.  Clarify their core values and attitudes.  Re-enforce the power of not comparing themselves to others.

2. Unity with Family:

Assisting your child with a clear family vision and mission provides meaning to their lives.  There is power in family unity. The process of leadership begins by understanding the desired end result with each child.

3. Unity with Others:

Healthy relationship with others increases productivity at home and school.  Children need healthy relationships for growth and development.  Parent’s can choose consciously to be a leader that demonstrates unity with themselves and others.  Being patient with your children until the need of each child is met is key in connecting at a deeper level with your family.



A #1: Appreciate

Value highly your position as an effective and responsible parent.  Be grateful daily for the opportunity to be a parent of value to your precious and gifted children.

A # 2: Alleviate:

Alleviate every obstacle, excuse, behavior and lazy thought designed to destroy the well-being of your family.  Associate your child’s name with words that are positive, encouraging, inspirational, and kind.

A# 3: Accentuate

Parents  will have more impact on their children if efforts are focused toward cultivating self-responsibility in the home.  This is an excellent time to refuse comparison with other parents.  Reward your children for being responsible with self-management.

A#4: Activate

Activate a stronger vision for yourself and each family member.  Activating support from each other is fundamental to maintaining momentum as an effective parent that leads the family skillfully.