UNDERSTANDING YOUR CHILD’S ANGER

A child’s anger is a quick and reflective response to a parent’s hypocrisy.  Pretending to have family values and purpose involves deception and is considered a lie.

Children dislike and become angry easily by a parent’s pretense of a virtuous and moral character.  Parents are at the mercy of understanding their children’s anger due to the deceptive and tragic methods used to communicate the family’s purpose.

Making excuses and being inconsistent with family goals is usually at the center stage why many children become furious with their parents.  Children need their parents to demonstrate behaviors reflecting truth, honesty and integrity in the home.  Half-truth is a form of trickery many children detest and do not respond to kindly.

Making plans with your child and changing them without an explanation provokes anger.  Anger in many children is often stimulated by a neglecting parent.  Neglecting to invest time in preparing children emotionally and physically to respond effectively to life’s daily challenges, encourages frustration.

Misleading children about their purpose in life is the highest form of deception many parents use underhanded that incites a child’s anger.  Suppressed truth about a child’s potential is no excuse for abuse and abandonment.

Children need parents to be more accountable with their future.  What are your written goals and purpose for your child’s first 18 years?  Why do you tolerate such low performance and deception in preparing your child with a financial portfolio before they begin high school?

Who is responsible for your family’s success? When will you develop the necessary skills and tools to move your child forward successfully?  Where can your child go for mentorship and support until you get help you need?  How can you strategically improve your relationship with your child within the next 12 months?

These questions can only be answered by a parent who honestly choose to understand the dangers associated with the child’s inability to process their own emotions correctly.  Implementing the answers to these questions has the potential to heal your family.  You are the answer to your child’s anger.  Share the family’s purpose with your child before it’s too late!

 

 

 

 

 

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HOW SHOULD I DEAL WITH MY CHILD WHO IS A BULLY?

It is important to know that one in ten children are victimized by bullies.  Bullying is a serious problem that should not be taken lightly.  Start by determining the reasons why your child is bullying others.  Are your child’s needs being met at home?  Do you invest 30 minutes or more daily engaging in developing healthy communication skills with your child?  Do you have a family purpose statement posted in your home?

The most common type of bullying is physical; punching, pushing, kicking etc.  Other types of bullying include using the silent treatment to manipulate others to give in to their demands.

        However, a child may be teasing other children, calling them names or otherwise verbally assaulting them.  Once you have determined the type of bullying, make it completely clear to your child that this behavior is unacceptable. Always separate the behavior from the child.  Then, take a good look at your non-verbal communication with your child.  

      Often, children imitate the behaviors of their parents.  Do you bully your spouse, child or others?  Do you demand things go your way? Are you a know it all parent?

Talking with your child about his/her behavior may lead them to giving you an explanation.  However, in many cases, it is a good idea to involve a professional counselor, who is especially trained in working with children who are bullies.

CHAOTIC PARENTING

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Chaotic parenting is using disorder and the author of confusion to communicate to  children the family’s vision, mission and values.

A family’s vision is designed to provide a clear destination for children.  Children need to be inspired toward achieving a family goal that adds value to themselves and to the community.  Without a family vision, mission and values in place, children will lack direction, making it easier to be manipulated by bullies.

Children motivated by a compelling family vision has the potential to capture their heart and connect them to their destiny.  A family’s vision is the only thing on this planet that will produce happiness in the home and give children strength and confidence in eliminating the victim mentality.

Using foul language and negative words one day as a form of communication with your children, and telling them you love them the next day, is the lowest form of parenting and the most common used by chaotic parents.

Have you ever wondered why so many children behave the way they do?  Why are so many children choosing to disrespect and dishonor their parents?  How many failed marriages and abandoned children will it take to eliminate this style of parenting?  Disorder and confusion are not effective parenting tools!

Chaotic parenting is ineffective and limits a child’s ability to move toward their destiny.  A child’s inability to understand the reasons behind their parent’s negative outburst when they make simple mistakes can be very confusing.

No child can develop into a productive and respectful individual rooted in a toxic and negative environment.  It’s time parents take a look in the mirror and begin to take personal responsibility for their actions.  It’s not always the child’s fault.  Make amends immediately by planning your next family meeting, and remove chaos and confusion from your home.  You can do this!

 

7 KEYS FOR WINNING YOUR CHILDREN’S HEART

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#1. FOCUS ON YOUR FAMILY’S PURPOSE: Your family’s purpose is foundational in winning your children’s heart.  Every child has a deep desire for connecting with their family’s purpose.  Without a family purpose many children become victims to other people’s purpose in life.  To learn how to create a family purpose statement visit http://www.BrooksandBrooksFoundation.org.

#2. TAKE ACTION DAILY:  It is very important parents take daily action toward the fulfillment of their family’s purpose.  Small steps each day are guaranteed for helping your children to shape their personalities and skillfully crafting their life experiences.

#3. ENCOURAGE THEM:  Children love the encouragement of their parents.  Encouragement is a powerful tool for building your children’s self-esteem and confidence.

#4. EXPRESS GRATITUDE: Celebrate the good in your children.  There are no perfect children.  Express gratitude when they have worked hard to keep their room clean.  Express gratitude when your children does not complain about dinner.  The goal is to express gratitude for the behavior you would like your child to practice more often.  Resist the temptation in paying more attention to your children’s negative behaviors.

#5. SHARE FAMILY GOALS:  A great time to share family goals is during your weekly family meetings.  Share the big picture with your children and allow them to add value to the family.  Children who are allowed to add value to their family usually add value to their community.

#6. FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION:  Children without a clear family purpose often develop a negative perception of who they are.  Do not give this option to your child.  Invest the necessary time to educate your children about the family’s purpose.

#7. BELIEVE IN YOUR PARENTING ABILITIES:  Children can only grow as far as their parent’s personal development.  Read the necessary books, attend the workshops, seek council from those who know more than you and never give up on personal development.  You are the best person for this parenting job.  I believe in your parenting abilities.  Now it’s your turn.