Parents have a tendency to react negatively to their children’s behavior, particularly when they run out of effective parenting tools to use. The fastest and quickest way to improve your children’s behavior is to execute the 3 C’s of parenting, otherwise known as vitamins for a parent’s mind. A parent’s ability to lead their children respectfully and authoritatively will always be at the mercy of their ability to manage themselves skillfully with proper vitamins for their mind.
The first C for parents is comprehension. Comprehension is grasping the nature and importance of your children’s behavior at all time. This vitamin is about parents intellectually responding to their children’s behavior from a position of strength and authority. Parents must make it a rule to never react impulsively to their children’s behavior.
The second C for parenting is conscience. Conscience is the awareness of a parent’s ethical conduct when responding to their children’s behavior. Communicating with a clear conscience is an essential vitamin for correcting negative behavior demonstrated by your children. There are not enough gifts or sacrifices a parent can give their children that will eliminate a guilty conscience. Parents must respond to their children’s negative behaviors always with a clear conscience not a guilty conscience. Reacting to your children’s behavior without forgiving them of their past negative behaviors is the greatest and most detrimental blockage to your children’s self-development.
The third C for parenting is conceptualization. Conceptualization are thoughts and ideas parents have about their children. Negative behaviors begin with a thought. Positive behaviors are also conceived by a thought. The road from conceptualization to understanding your children’s behavior can be tedious. Keep in mind; children’s behaviors are first conceived from the ideas and thoughts they have about themselves. Coaching children towards improving their personal identity will drastically change their behavior towards success and excellence.
New Book Helps Parents Build Their Children’s Self-Esteem.
Self-esteem is your sense of personal worth. It encompasses both self-confidence and self-acceptance. In part, healthy self-esteem comes from your awareness of the value you add to your family and the community. In Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem, author Yvonne Brooks provides a step-by-step guide for improving children’s self-esteem.
Practical and hands-on, with clear and concise instructions, Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem shows parents how to identify healthy and low self-esteem behaviors in their children. Parents will also learn how to overcome and correct unproductive habits that limit their child’s performance.
From developing a series of ideas for empowering children toward self-responsibility and awareness, parents will get the information needed to activate their child’s potential for maximum success. Parents will learn how self-esteem manifests in children, how children with healthy and low self-esteem communicate, and how healthy and low self-esteem characteristics affect parenting skills.
Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem provides guidance to help parents manifest and produce healthy, confident, courageous children.
Three major areas of need parents should address with their children include:
1. Unity with Self:
Show your children the benefits of being content. Clarify their core values and attitudes. Re-enforce the power of not comparing themselves to others.
2. Unity with Family:
Assisting your child with a clear family vision and mission provides meaning to their lives. There is power in family unity. The process of leadership begins by understanding the desired end result with each child.
3. Unity with Others:
Healthy relationship with others increases productivity at home and school. Children need healthy relationships for growth and development. Parent’s can choose consciously to be a leader that demonstrates unity with themselves and others. Being patient with your children until the need of each child is met is key in connecting at a deeper level with your family.
Blind Spot #1: Overestimate Themselves
This often happens when your child set their goals too high.
Solution: Break family goals down into several steps and ask your child to assist you with the process of breaking a goal into several steps.
Blind Spot #2: Believe they do not need help
Allow your child room to make mistakes, and encourage them to get back up and try again.
Blind Spot #3: Underestimate Themselves
Children who set their goals too low are easily bored and usually struggle with this blind spot.
Review your family purpose, vision, mission and values statement with your child. Begin a step by step plan for assisting your child with creating their personal purpose statement to be posted in their room.
Blind Spot #4: Negative Thoughts
Many children are unaware that they are not their thoughts. Each action is connected to thoughts they gave permission to. Encourage your child to capture each thought to align with their purpose statement, and refuse every thought that does not support it.
Blind Spot #5: Pride
Right before your child suffers a horrible setback, pride will show up. Pride is associated with limited vision. The inability to activate a personal vision statement can be very dangerous to your child’s well-being.
Create a 90-day plan with your child to activate their personal vision statement.
Visit the Brooks & Brooks Foundation Youtube Channel and watch the video “How to Create Your Family Vision Statement.”