Archive | January 2011


The  power of a father’s leadership can be visually captured in his attitude toward them and is the core element of the family.  This kind of power inspires, motivate, and encourages family development with rigor and intensity.  A fundamental principle linked with this kind of leadership is integrity.

A father’s integrity is like a seed and carries tremendous favor and well-being for his children.  Habitually communicating to his children at the highest level of integrity is a standard of parenting many father’s strive to work toward responsibly.

Understanding that every family member is part of his team, successful father’s choose to own the process of serving each family member toward stability and success.  The  implementation effective parental tools and creating family incentives for advancement, allow these father’s to experience meaningful changes infinitely.

As a shepherd look after his flock; this leader search for the many traps, tactics and plans organized through carefully marketed products to steal, kill and destroy his children’s future.  Lack of a father’s leadership in the home is the cause for many youth’s who are lost, out of control, and running the streets.

The heart of a father’s leadership is reflected in the management of his household.  The essential process for empowering his family to greater heights is following a family vision, working together to activate the family mission and effortlessly applying effective family values.  These actions are the substance of all father’s who lead with power.

Father’s who understand these three reference points for family development,  experience a higher level of peace and tranquility in the home.  The inability of father’s to understand these basic principles, the less likely their family will be able to stand the tests, trials and conflicts already en route for this season and the next decade.

The power of a father’s leadership is critical for the family’s success.  Incisive thinking skills along with a written plan to increase knowledge for moving his family forward not just for the day, but for the next 10, 20, or 30 years is a mandatory requirement for his success. A father’s leadership without a written long-term plan is ineffective and powerless.



1. Never give half-hearted gifts.  The same will return to you.

2. Giving to others benefit them. However; you always benefit the most.

3. You are not the only one with resources and support to give to others.  Someone is always waiting to take your place.

4. Stop looking for a “Thank You” note when you give.  Looking for the note limits your ability to receive.

5. Our good works and generosity is like sowing a seed that produces a harvest seasonally.  Take inventory of your harvest so far, and make the correct changes if you would like a bigger harvest.

6. Failure to be generous is the foundation for unfulfillment and lack.  You only hurt yourself when you fail to invest quality time in self-empowerment, family development and community improvement.

7. Practice generosity first in your own home.  Share kindness with your spouse and children first before exposing yourself as a fraud to the community.

8. Do not withhold promises.  Check out the story of Ananias and Sapphira.

9. Stewardship requires responsibility.  What are your specific written plans for using your resources wisely for the next 12 months?

10. Never oppress others under your influence.  The oppression of others is like taking a withdrawal without any deposit.  A bankrupt and tormented life awaits all those who choose this path.

11. Give generously to those assigned to you.  Be the first to empower others.

12. Get rich in patience, love, joy, kindness, generosity, humility, forgiveness, self-control and then money.

13. Care for the poor and the powerless in your community.  We are all responsible for the well-being of each other.

14.  Look after orphans and widows in distress.  Thank God, you are in a position to help.

15. Be proactive and create a family legacy for providing resources and education for those in need of support and protection in your community.

16. If you’re dishonest with little, you will be dishonest with much,

17. Complaining and worrying about your financial situation puts you backward about 365 days.

18. Abundance, increase and favor follow those with a written plan.  Start writing!

19. Tithe 10% of all your earnings for the improvement of your community.

20. Pay yourself 10%, this is an excellent way to honor yourself.

21. Save/invest 10% for future.  What would you like your children, the community and others to say about you after you have left the planet?

22. Allow 70% of your earnings for household and family expenses.  Try to reduce this amount as you increase in knowledge.

23. Give thanks for everything! This is essential for activating more increase.


An initiator is someone who takes the first step on their own.  Initiator makes  a move toward someone or something without been told.  This behavior must be taught and established in the home during the elementary and middle school years.

Parents have the opportunity to provide leadership development tools for their teenagers to learn the principles for taking initiative.  When teenagers are taught at an early stage how to take the first step, it build’s their courage and self-esteem.

Courageous teens with a strong family vision statement make the best leaders for themselves and others.  There are many ways to empower your teenager to take initiative.  Here are a 23 powerful ideas.

Be the first in the relationship to demonstrate integrity and honor.

Recognize and highlight your teenager’s small or large accomplishments daily.

Honor your teen’s need for time alone by creating a schedule ahead of time.

Anticipate only the good and look forward with pleasure to gather effective resources for empowering your teenager to another level.

Clean your mind from all negative thoughts designed to hinder, steal or destroy quality time with your teen.

Demonstrate the perfect role model by taking time out to create a vision board with your teenager displaying their short, intermediate and long-term goals.

Develop a plan for becoming the most positive and influential person in your teen’s life.

Petition daily in prayer for your teenagers success, good health and healthy friendships.

Provide indisputable family valuables and post them in the home.

Establish weekly or monthly family meetings as a necessity.

Be quick to apologize and establish peace.

Agree to invest 1 hour weekly for self empowerment.

Forgive all past and negative behaviors, guilt or shame about your relationship.

Grow rich in love and mercy and share results with your teen in abundance.

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Ensure stability and respect by placing a premium on following through with your words.

Reject ignorance and move toward family empowerment.

Use honesty and genuineness as your foundation when communicating with your teen.

Belief and have faith in your teenager’s potential to make a positive difference in the world.

Wear humility to activate discipline in the home.

Esteem your teen toward greatness by improving your self-image first.

Allow yourself room in your day to experience laughter with your teen.

identify and affirm ten positive qualities in your teen before they head off to school.




Motivation is a key principle many children live by and often reflect the atmosphere in the home.  Motivated children are self-starters and focus highly on what they can do, not on what they cannot do.

These children are very humble and do not think highly of themselves, more highly than they should.  Humility is the greatest character of a motivated child.  Pride destroys children, but a humble child commands honor.

Comforted in times of grief over the lost of a grandparent, a toy or a pet, motivated children embrace the opportunity to face all adversity with a positive attitude.  Always looking on the bright side of life is an attitude motivated children use to their advantage.

Accomplishments are shared with others with the relationship of a motivated child.  Shared accomplishments is the seed for long-term success.  The inheritance of success is a byproduct of children who share their accolade with others.

Motivated children crave knowledge and are eager to learn the principles for making a difference in their family, at their school and in their community.  Filled with infinite ideas and wisdom, these children develop innovative software programs, create fundraisers to improve the environment and establish campaigns for moving their generation forward.

Merciful, forgiveness and kindness are just some of the strategic tools motivated children use to disarm bullies, and those who lack self-control.  Rich in mercy, many motivated children use this essential tool for eliminating delays and controlling the enemies of time.

With a pure heart, motivated children monitor what they watch, read and hear.  Materials laced with violence, negativity and destruction has the potential to damage a child’s  future beyond repair.  Monitoring the intensity of this negative and carefully marketed broadcast directed at a child’s ear and eye gate is essential in the protection of their mind.  Monitoring is a specific tactic implemented by motivated children to reduce the premeditated attack against their  growth and development.

Where peace is concern, motivated children choose to be peacemakers.  Peacemakers are admired by many individuals and are considered to be “Super Heroes” for most children.  Encouraging others to get along is a trait peacemakers use effortlessly to bring calm to conflicts and disagreements.  Motivated children love peace because it sets the temperature of their heart.

Refusing to be the victim and making the decision to live a life of excellence often follows the trail of motivated children. A life of excellence is a discipline and is a  core element of children motivated to behave with the highest integrity.  Bringing their weaknesses to light and asking questions so as correct them, motivated children has the potential to articulate their performance to a level skilled beyond reach.


A father’ contribution is vitally important to his family and must be rooted in love.   Children respond favorably to a lifestyle of love, as if their life depended on it–because it does.  A strong foundation rooted in a father’s love consists of the following:

Love is Patient:

The contribution of a father’s patience is a virtue rich in experience and hope.  A father’s experience in managing family conflicts successfully is the training ground for working his patience.  The development of a father’s patience is one of the highest contribution family members honor and respect.

Love is Kind:

Kindness begins in the home.  The contribution of a father’s kindness in the face of a defiant and rebellious child is the peak of his love.  Actively seeking to foster a friendly relationship with his children, many father’s use this strategic technique to reach out and express their love unselfishly.

Love is Protection:

The contribution of a father’s love is like a hedge of protection for his children.  Children embrace love easily knowing that their father is always there for them.  Great and abundant in strength is a father’s hedge of protection, his children gladly run into his arms and feel safe.

Love is Trust:

Children who trust the love of their father do not entertain thoughts of fear.  A father’s trust is a powerful ingredient children entertain for keeping a sound mind when afflicted by fear and worry.  There is no fear in love.  Mental bondage and a victim mentality can be eliminated from a child’s life through a father’s contribution of love.

Love is Hope:

Hope is the evidence of things not seen and therefore is a foundational contribution of a father’s love.  This unwaveringly contribution is a confidence that builds and encourages his children toward self-discipline.  A father’s hope in his child’s ability to excel in all areas is a contribution of love that cultivates family empowerment.

Love Perseveres:

Perseverance is a need many children welcome with open arms from their fathers.  Life is a process not an event.  Perseverance is exercising  self-control one day at a time.   A father’s perseverance in daily habits of success is the contribution children need for stable growth and development.


Exclusive parenting is one of the most lucrative aspects of parenting that gains access to a child’s heart.  At the very core, parents must invest quality time daily to fully appreciate the fulfillment of exclusive parenting.

Every relationship has an emotional bank account. Gaining access to a child’s heart mean parents must emotional secure nine deposits before any withdrawals are made.

The first deposit to make in your children’s emotional bank account is LOVE.  Do you criticize and judge your role as a parent? The tenderness of your relationship with your child is connected to the tenderness of your own heart.  You cannot love your child anymore than you love yourself.  If you are bankrupt in your own emotional bank account, understand that your child will not experience the love that’s connected to exclusive parenting.

The second deposit to make in your children’s emotional bank account is JOY.  How often did you laugh with your child this week?  Are you able to choose joy as a form of communication when frustrated with your child?  Investing joy allows parents to withdraw inner strength.  Joy is the greatest security for building emotional strength in children.

The third deposit to make in your children’s emotional bank account is PEACE.  Would your child describe you as a peaceful parent?  To what degree do you worry about your child?  When parents invest time building the character of peace with their children it creates understanding and appreciation.  Responding peacefully to a child’s delinquent behavior is more helpful and more in line with exclusive parenting.

The fourth deposit to make in your children’s emotional bank account is PATIENCE. This is not most parents favorite character to deposit, but it is the most powerful.  Depositing patience when your child explodes into a rage is the fastest and easiest way to grow your investments.  Love demands patience; therefore children respond first to a parent’s behavior and mood, not what they say.  Banking patience is essential for exclusive parenting and gaining access to a child’s heart.

The fifth deposit to make in your children’s emotional bank account is KINDNESS.  How are you doing in the area of encouraging and affirming your child?  Do you constantly take time to listen or play with your child without distractions?  Kindness is reflected back to parents with compounded deposits.  Strategically depositing kind words and kind thoughts about your child can yield at times 30, 60 or 100 fold return.

The sixth deposit to make in your children’s emotional bank account is GENEROSITY.   Do you find yourself giving less time to your own personal needs and desires?  Do you wish sometimes you could take a break?  This is a sign of bankruptcy.  Children do not tolerate bankrupt parents.  Generosity banking is a language children understand very clearly and no substitute will do.

The seventh deposit to make in your children’s emotional bank account is FAITHFULNESS.  Would you child consider you to be dependable?  When you tell your child you would pick them up after school at a specific time, can they count on you or do you always send the nanny?  Do you ever deceive your child with words such as “I don’t remember” or “Are you sure I said that”?  Faithfulness is a deposit parents can withdraw from their children anytime.  Remember to bank wisely!

The eight deposit to make in your children’s emotional bank account is GENTLENESS.  Over the last week, how often have you taken the time to identify the root cause for your child’s grumpiness or defiant behavior?  There are gentle ways to be non-violent and non-manipulative in leading your child toward growth and development.  Rewarding hostility and disrespect is the same as using a credit card and paying high interest.  Don’t Do It!

The ninth deposit to make in your children’s emotional bank account is SELF-CONTROL.  How are you doing with your words toward your child?  Self-control is about self-mastery.  It is not a child’s responsibility to teach parents effective ways for practicing self-control.  Parents must consciously bank self-control so as to shift from a negative viewpoint of their child to a healthy and healed relationship.

Parent without this knowledge make daily withdrawals without deposits and therefore is always in a bankrupt state with their children.  There are no more bail outs.  It’s time to become exclusive!

Announcing The Release of: “The Parental Toolkit”

The Brooks and Brooks Foundation is very pleased to announce the official release of: The Parental Toolkit.   Power packed with 10 parental navigation strategies for empowering children;  The Parental Toolkit has been tested and shown to significantly improve the lives of families across the globe.

Self-esteem, perception and values are the essence of a parent’s attitude toward their children.  A parent’s attitude is of vital importance and critical for the development of their child’s mental, emotional and physical development.

A child’s anger is a quick and reflective response to a parent’s hypocrisy.  Pretending to have family values and purpose involves deception and is considered a lie.  The Parental Toolkit address these issues and provides parents with tools and resources to protect them from being easily manipulated by daily circumstances.

Aligning  parents to organize their family into a force of effective individuals who are capable of leading themselves successfully is just one of the results families can experience by using The Parental Toolkit.

Equipping parents to withstand incredible pressures from their children and not be defeated.   Hard pressed on every side, yet not crushed.  Wearing full armor, standing strong in confidence while they advance their family toward excellence is the best definition of a parent who has benefited from the use of The Parental Toolkit.

Parents can now transform their inadequacies into effective skills for their children.   Effective parental skills are fundamental in raising children who excel beyond mediocrity.   Learning the benefits of how to develop a strong family vision, mission and values statements are just some of the outstanding tools families can use immediately to empower their family toward excellence.

Unstable and weak parenting skills are no longer tolerated and permitted to be the norm.  The Parental Toolkit is the answer to every parent’s desire to coach their family from a victim mentality toward to a  level of success that improve their lives for greater good.