Archive | June 2010

The 3 C’s of Understanding Your Children’s Behavior

Parents have a tendency to react negatively to their children’s behavior, particularly when they run out of effective parenting tools to use.   The fastest and quickest way to improve your children’s behavior is to execute the 3 C’s of understanding.  A parent’s ability to lead their children respectfully and authoritatively will always be at the mercy of their understanding.

The first C for understanding your children’s behavior is comprehension. Comprehension is grasping the nature and importance of your children’s behavior at all time.  This C is about parents intellectually responding to their children’s behavior from a position of strength and authority.  Parents must make it a rule to never react impulsively to their children’s behavior.

The second C for understanding your children’s behavior is conscience.  Conscience is the awareness of a parent’s ethical conduct when responding to their children’s behavior.  Communicating with a clear conscience is an essential tool for correcting negative behavior demonstrated by your children.  There are not enough gifts or sacrifices a parent can give their children that will eliminate a guilty conscience.  Parents must respond to their children’s negative behaviors always with a clear conscience not a guilty conscience. Reacting to your children’s behavior without forgiving them of their past negative behaviors is the greatest and most detrimental blockage to your children’s self-development.  

The third C for understanding your children’s behavior is conceptualization.  Conceptualization is an unexecuted thought or ideas parents have about their children. Negative behaviors begin with a thought.   Positive behaviors are also conceived by a thought. The road from conceptualization to understanding your children’s behavior can be tedious.  Keep in mind; children’s behaviors are first conceived from the ideas and thoughts they have about themselves.  Coaching children towards improving their personal identity will drastically change their behavior towards success and excellence.

Don’t Tell Your Child What to Do!

Don’t tell your child what to do-give them choices.

1. Telling your children what to do encourages them to be irresponsible.

2. Giving your children choices empowers them toward taking responsibility.

3. Telling your children what to do reduces their accountability level.

4. Giving your children choices inspires them toward self-discipline.

5. Telling your children what to do pushes them toward rebellion.

6. Giving your children choices motivates them toward excellence.

7. Telling your children what to do forces them to be defensive.

8. Giving your children choices guides them toward embracing unity.

9. Telling your children what to do increases a victim mentality.

10. Giving your children choices directs them towards expressing a victorious mentality.